The Benefits of Couples Counseling

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The Benefits of Couples Counseling

Hi! I’m Lucy Higgins. I’m 31 years old and engaged to be married. My fiance and I go to couples counseling, and it has truly helped our relationship. I would say we have an excellent relationship for the most part. What happened was we started talking about how we want to handle things after we are married. We tried to discuss things like finances, raising children, jobs, and even where to live. In these discussions, we noticed that even when we agreed on matters, there was a certain tension in the air. I felt that my fiance Max was being too matter-of-fact. Max felt that I was putting too much emotion into our discussions. We decided to try couples counseling and see if we could learn how to communicate better with one another. I would like to share our positive experiences with you.

Is Christmas Only For Christians? How To Celebrate A Secular Holiday Season

The holiday season may seem like it is only meant for those who are religious. However, today's culture is beginning to embrace the secular aspect of the holiday. There are many ways you can have a great time this year without having to focus on a specific religion. Here are some ideas:

Focus on Your Loved Ones

The holiday season should be a time to completely focus on the ones you love. This is as season of togetherness and tradition, so take this time of year to slow down and enjoy your family. Set some new traditions for yourself, such as playing board games on Christmas Eve, enjoying hot chocolate while wrapping gifts, or watching a holiday movie together. Taking some time to think about what really matters, the ones most important to you, is the best way to celebrate the holiday.

Host a Gift Exchange

Another fun secular activity is hosting a gift exchange at your home. This is a fun get together with a lot of friends, family, and good food. Encourage everyone you invite to bring a snack and a gift to exchange. Think about a theme for your gift exchange. Have everyone wear tacky sweaters, or make them bring a silly gag gift and see who gets the craziest item. Make it about good fun, good food, and you will have a celebration to remember from year to year.

Volunteer at a Charitable Organization

Celebrating a secular holiday doesn't mean you can't be giving of your time. There is always room for volunteers at many non religious community organizations, including clothing drives and in soup kitchens. There are plenty of secular charities that you can volunteer for who would be extremely grateful for your time. Do a little research and choose a charity to support that is meaningful to you and your family.

Decorate with Secular Decor

While you will see quite a bit of religious decorations this time of year, there are plenty of secular decorations you can use to adorn your home. You can still have a Christmas tree even if you aren't religious. You can still have outdoor lights on your home and evergreen wreathes on your door to celebrate the holiday season. Choose a fun holiday theme and run with it. You can create a winter wonderland on your lawn using snowmen and snowflake lights. Have Santa and his reindeer be the theme of your fireplace mantle this year.

Make the holiday season your own by celebrating in your own fashion. There is no one-size-fits-all celebration, so have some fun coming up with some fun, secular traditions that is meaningful to everyone in your family.